Reception Drape: Attire for “Bou Bhat”

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Bengali Bridal Reception dress
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Hey friends! As if “what-to-wear-for wedding” tension was not enough, there is another day for every bride-to-be to rack her brains for- The reception party at the groom’s place. In Bengali wedding rituals, unlike some other parts of the country, the attire worn by the bride on her reception party is gifted by the in-laws. Bengali weddings are mostly simple affairs compared to weddings in other parts of India where the utmost importance is given to FOOD :P Dress, jewellery, shoes etc are something which people are not really bothered about (Things are changing now), so you never really get to see a “Bridezilla” who is creating a ruckus about wanting ONLY designer sarees, matching designer shoes and Bollywood type jewellery. The traditional middle-class Bengali families saw brides in red banarasi saree on her wedding day and a blue banasrasi saree on her bou-bhat (reception) gifted by her in-laws.

Now, although I fully support the part about not being a “bridezilla” and creating holes in pocket running after designer boutiques, but the very idea of having to wear blue banarasi (which mostly came with silver zari) like EVERYONE else seemed like a nightmare to me! Mostly because I knew I was going to wear traditional gold jewellery on both wedding and reception evenings and that with silver zari on the saree would clash like hell! I also knew that many Bengali families would just buy a beautiful blue banarasi saree for the newly-wed bride without eve asking if she WANTS to wear blue on her reception :-/

My fears proved to be completely wrong when my super-cool mom-to-be asked me what color I would want to wear, what type of designs, what kind of jewellery and all :D I promptly told “anything but blue. Preferably dark pink with golden zari” And behold!!! My darling MIL bought THIS for me! It was a love at first sight for me :D A magenta pink banarasi saree with intricate gold embroidery all over the body and an emerald green aachal which also has all over gold embroidery :D



Bengali Bridal Reception dress
Reception Drape: Attire for “Bou Bhat”



Bengali Bridal Reception dress
Reception Drape: Attire for “Bou Bhat”


I did not want to be too experimental with the blouse and made a normal one with gold beaded neckline and sleeves.


Bengali Bridal Reception dress
Reception Drape: Attire for “Bou Bhat”


The veil forms a very important part of the Bengali bridal/reception esemble and I decided to customize one instead of buying a readymade one. For the dupatta, I scanned my trusted site, Jabong.com and got this perfectly matching plain magenta colored tissue dupatta. Once I received it, it went to my tailor for the lace. She sourced this antique gold lace with pearls from her wholeseller and gave my dupatta a regal look :D I didn’t want to go overboard with the zari because I plan to use this even after the reception with one of my salwar kameez :P And the cherry on the cake was, the dupatta, zari and stitching charges took me less than 1k as opposed to the readymade ones which were priced at 1500-2800 ;)

Bengali Bridal Reception dress
Reception Drape: Attire for “Bou Bhat”


Regarding jewellery, I will be wearing the traditonal gold sets given by my parents and my in-laws. Thankfully, all of those matches with my wedding attire and reception one as well :D But I wanted a bit of color-pop in my jewellery too, so this set came into my kit a few days back ;) Its a golden necklace studded with dark pink and green stones and pearls. I have bought this from “Pranati Jewels” (Read all about Online stores for gold costume jewellery here). This will go well with the gold jewelleries as well (I hope!)

Bengali Bridal Reception dress
Reception Drape: Attire for “Bou Bhat”


Thus, am sorted :D And for all the other brides-to-be who are still hunting for the perfect reception saree and have a mother-in-law as lovely as mine, tell them your choices because there is NOTHING wrong in that J It is your day and you should wear what makes you feel beautiful!


Here are a few pointers to remember if you do not want to wear red on your reception:
·        Warm toned girls (with yellow tones in complexion) can opt for fuchsias, magentas, rust, orange, yellow, emerald green etc. These colors would bring out your glow even more :)
·        Cool Toned girls can choose baby pinks, purples, mauves, powder blue, royal blue etc. These colors would add more to your pearly complexion :D
·        Don’t blindly go for kundan jewellery just because “everyone wears them” or for gold jewellery because I am telling you to. Stand in front of the mirror with your attire and think what would go with that particular saree and on yourself. Choose jewellery wisely :)
·        I personally love reception looks with roses (pinks, reds, dark pinks) on hair. You might also give it a thought :)

That’s all for today girls! Will be back soon

Disclaimer: The first image of this post belongs to DnA Photographix. Permission has been taken from them to use their images as bridal post references. Visit their Facebook Page HERE :)


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